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Saturday, October 07, 2006

How To Be A Better Couple


Got this chain-mail thingy in my mailbox kat my Myspace. Thought of sharing it! :D

10 steps to enjoy
each other better...

1. Be realistic about each other.

Don't try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u're gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.

Lea: KAN? Always tau nak make me to be somebody am not... cuba accept me as I am nengok, kan? *Mati la GREENLAND! Hahahahaha!

2. Always talk things out.

Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner undrstands what u're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.

Lea: The things is me likes talkings is too much, HOW? Mati lah from 10% masalah, becomes 90% lebey parah!

3. Do stuff together

Make an effort to do t hings together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccor with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!

Lea: Do things together? Mrasalah SEX 24-7! Hahahahaha! Now THAT'S an effort, kan?

4. Meet each other halfway.

If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy... There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.

Lea: I receive only - don't do "GIVING" - hahahaha!

5. Show ur love

Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have been together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.

Lea: I think am good at this - BUT ALWAYS la me never get back the same action. Hmmm... must find a DK lover for a DQ person ley? Hehehehe...

6. Respect each other.

Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.

Lea: Seriously, if dia saorang yang macam... erm... hmmm... who ek... whoever lah, yang doesn't take "respect" seriously, perlu ke bother to even try to respect dia? Eh, if like that kan, why bother to be in a relationship with him in the first place, kan? Owh well, maybe sebab dia candiew? Opps!

7. Bury the past.

Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.

Lea: MATI LA mek cannot BURY MY PAST! They don't call me MISS PAST TENSE for nothing! Hahahahahahaha Dia kena accept the past, present and future tense! ALL kena! No no bury bury. Sape yang buat this rules, must be a guy, kan!? Hahahah

8. Sit on ur jealousy.

All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finall y killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.

Lea: How can I sit on my jealousy sedangkan mek menjunjungnya? Opps!

9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.

Lea: Yeah yeah - give full commitments to him and abaikan commitment yang lainČ, ek?

10. Be honest.

Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? ?Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!

Lea: But honesty can sometimes erm, hurt you in the end, KAN? So why bother?

FORWARD THIS...

--> to 5 people and u'll have gd luck
Lea: So by making this as an entry, mek have already forwarding this msg to more than 5 people, right? Unless my blog tak sehebat blog 'sebelah' sehari 300 readers masuk, kan? So anyways, even if 5 org jer baca blog mek - ok - I have the good luck already *let me try and run naked in public - if no one catches me, YEYYYY! I have good luck!

--> to 10 people or more and u'll have lots of gd luck in ur love life
Lea: Hurm... WHAT IF ade 11 org baca blog mek (opps)... so hmm... I wonder will I get a big punch or a slap on my face for kissing a straight guy who doesn't know me at all? Hmmm... If I don't - mrasalah bagus benor msg/ rules/ forwarding advise nih, KAN?

--> BUT... do it within 3hrs after reading or u'll have BAD LUCK in ur LOVE LIFE for the next few years~!!!~
Lea: TU DIAH! Mek dapat msg nih 3 days ago - so what does that mean? BAD LUCK IN LOVE LIFE UNTIL 2019???????? HELLO?!?!

Msg / mail dari si penghantar msg nih ke mailbox Myspace mek:

"When I receiveed this I must forward to you, sorry.
I don't want my LOVE LIFE to be BAD LUCK.
GOOD LUCK to you."

Lea: Kaaaaatanya - hahahahahah! "Don't want my love life to be bad luck" ek? Sah sah me 'been there!', kan? Hahahahaha!

For me - Love doesn't require GOOD LUCK ke ape ke ok! Forwarding chain msgs , email and sms or ape ke, just to get good charm in your love life, I think it's sad! Honestly! It IS! For me, what you really need to have a good love life is faith, confidence and just to believe in yourself; and yes, the 10 ways mentioned above. And besides, I believe in fate. Kalau dah tertulis you with A, then you're with A. By the time you're supposed to end your relationship with A, and hooks up with B - don't call it BAD LUCK in love life with A. It's what I call "WRITEN IN THE BOOK OF FATE". And just because you don't get any date for the past 1 year - that doesn't mean you have bad luck in love life la. It's just, erm, you're erm, don't have dates lor! Hehehehehe!

JANGAN KETINGGALAN!!!
Kini Berlangsung!
BLOGGERS IDOL 2006





Posted at 4:00:00 pm by Nurlea Laurielle Lai Lee Abdullah

5thE
October 8, 2006   09:03 PM PDT
 
And just because you don't get any date for the past 1 year - that doesn't mean you have bad luck in love life la. It's just, erm, you're erm, don't have dates lor! Hehehehehe!

>>SETUJU!!! FRESH ado... COMPLETE ado.. IJAUSOKMO ado... kan Lea kan? kan?kan?
Nurlea Laurielle Lai Lee
October 8, 2006   10:45 PM PDT
 
KAN!? Maaacamkesialll! korang gi bulan posa jugak, KAN!? *hahahah mati la korang mek kompangkan nanti aktiviti teraweh korang! OPppppsSS korang tu sapa tatau? hahahahaha (3 orang kan? Hahahah)
5thE
October 9, 2006   03:26 AM PDT
 
its POST TERAWEH ok.. matila kua stetment SEIMBANG... matiker??? ekekek mati mati mati.... I REST MY CASE. hik.. and its only 2 OWANG YE.. sowang tu CHAPERON sahajjj... ngehngeh
Nurlea Laurielle Lai Lee
October 12, 2006   01:26 AM PDT
 
Chaperon leyyyy? Maacam la chaperon tak join the club also kan? Opps!



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