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Sunday, May 14, 2006

I love A, but at the same time I love B - HELP!


Date: Thu, 11 May 2006 01:28:18 -0700 (PDT)
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Subject: hi lea - need some advice
To:lea_laurielle@yahoo.com

hi lea.
 
it was a long time ago that i sent an email, telling you how much i admire u. that you let your life fulfilled with other things and not forgetting who you are.
 
lea, i need some advice. quite don't have any friends left that i could talk to. entahlah, at this point i am in desperation to talk to someone - to have someone tell me what to do. or at the very least, be very frank to me, that i am a cruel person.
 
i have been in a relationship with my partner for more than 18 months now. for the first year, everything been great. then, i became the jealous freak that i am and she in return became rebellious and got her ego between us. it was push and pull that lead to me getting to know another woman. 
 
lea, i am in love with both women. and they have professed love to me. i've been found out 4 times counting the last one. and this time around, i tried to end it with my partner and ready to start life with the other woman. but lea, while my partner and i were trashing out things between us, finalizing things, we just got to a part where we just cried and all anger, all hatred, all resentment between us just ebbed away. lea, i saw the love that brought us together in the first place, and i can't just let go and might ended up regretting things had i not try to salvage things. i promise my partner i will not have any claims on her until i can stand proud in front of her with my full heart for her. but i could not forget the other woman lea. i could not ignore her calls, could not not read her emails and reply to it. i love both lea. and both have said they are willing to wait for me. lea ... i'm so fucked up.

Xxxx Xxxxx

Owwwhhhh kkkkaaayyyyy... knpa mek rase cam tetiber dejavu jer nih? I mean, situasi org mintak advise dari mek nih - like, same masalah lak tu. Could it be the same person? Hahahah memandai jer mek nak speku. Tak per. Lets, biar mek treat this matter berasingan dari the matters yang mek dosi pernah attended sebelum inih,nah?

I shall not buat entry nasihat nih pepanjang lebar. Sah sah mek pong berproblems jugak. Muahahah! Tapi, let me buat entry nih utk Xxxx itiew in point form, so that u ols leh paham senang dan know what to do next, nah?

So Xxxx Xxxxx... hear this...

  1. As far as I'm concerned la kan, the only reason why you went out with B (the later one), was simply to abaikan ie. get away dari masalah yang you sedang hadapi with A, correct? Even if you deny it, tapi mek tetap rase cam tu. Sebab kalau U and A (ur 1st partner) dinch ado masalah, would you be going out with B? No kan? :D
  2. Yang mek nampak, seteruk mana masalah u dengan A, seberapa kali u guys tried nak berpisah, u guys still love each other. Don't deny that. Sebab you said so yourself yang you can still see the love that brought u and A together. And whenever you nak end it, the word TAPI is there, KAN? When TAPI is around, so is the love between u and A. Its just that you guys need to sit down and work things out.
  3. B on the other hand, adalah just alasan for you to have since you're having problems with A. Now soalan mek, would you truly say you love B as much as you love A? U ols can see ker the love like the love between you and A dalam the love between you and B? Jgn cepat melatah dan cepat draw conclusions wak. Pikir bebetul. You kenal B bilo? You kenal A bilo? Jgn wak oiiii buat decision yang sallaps (salah + silaps) hiks!
  4. Call it out of style, but for me, you can mingle and sleep with zillion trillions of peeps, but when it comes to LOVE, you can only Love 1 person, and say it to 1 person only, and be in love with only 1 person. Itu pandangan mek la eek. So as for you, identify bebetul, which one yg THE ONE (pada pendapat mek, its A, walaupun u ols ado masalah...). Mana ade relationship yang tak der masalah? It won't be right - a perfect relationship adalah dengan kehadiran masalah. Tanpa masalah, I doubt we'd be calling it perfect? You think about it..
  5. When you say you cannot forget about B, thats because you MIND sets it to be that way. You want things to work out with A, yes? THEN you have to force yourself and your brains to stop thinking about B. I'm not asking you to ABAIKAN B - but just stick to being friends, someone who you can talk to. For all you know, lepas˛ nih, B could be the one yang nasihatkan you. If dia sayangkan you and paham your situation, dia akan bantu u dengan A... :D

Xxxx, I do hope my nasihat nih boleh diterima akal dan dipakai. Mek buat nih as an entry, semata˛ utk let the rest yang might be in your shoes tu pon boleh adaptkan. Hope you don't mind. Biarlah kite share masalah˛ cam nih. So I hope, you ols boleh think now whats best and Good Luck and may God bless you... :)

PS: U're not fucked up lah unless u're getting fucked la kan. Hiks! Stay coolies darl. Me know you can settle this matter... just relax, think wisely and if possible, TALK to A regarding this... and let B understand that you still love A. Cakap kat B, "Takkan nak tunggu sampai jadik kertu kot???" Hehehe - lariiiiiiii! *Me yang lari, bukan u ols yang lari tau! Hehe...










Posted at 12:35:58 pm by Nurlea Laurielle Lai Lee Abdullah

doc feel
May 14, 2006   07:44 PM PDT
 
aiyo, lea ur advice so killing one lah. dangerous doing it dat way. the prob is, XXX has heart for A and B. A and B in return love XXX as well.

My advice would be:
1. XXX, Be honest and tell both A and B the current situation. The fact is, XXX is not tied to any engagement with A nor B. I mean perkahwinan la. 2. Let both A and B faham the situation and do tell em that you love them both.
3. Ask them what they wanna do and perhaps let them, A and B meet with each other and ask them to compete to get XXX's heart.

This way XXX can avoid someone got hurted badly. I mean the losing party also got hurted, still dia masih faham kenapa the winning party deserve to be with XXX and she shall leave XXX and the winning party to live happily ever after.
Nurlea Laurielle
May 14, 2006   11:59 PM PDT
 
In love kan, theres bound to be someone yang akan get hurt actually la doc. Rasenye mek kasik advise based on what I would do rasenye. Xxxx, am sorry kalau advise mek nih seemed so, DANGEROUS and KILLING tapi mek rase itu jer yang mek akan buat. Confess, and let BOTH get hurt? Tak per lah - baik sorang jer. Besides, seriously, kalau u dengan A tak der masalah, wujudkan B?
Name
May 22, 2006   01:07 PM PDT
 
kak lea,

i am a straight girl. I think that A sumhow mcm situasi saye. I just found out that my bf has another gf. It does broke my heart. Really hurt... And I have exam tomorrow. And I feel stupid sgt sbb I still love him. I just love him :(



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