Well the truth is - having a boyfriend or a girlfriend as for that matter, or probably, BOTH, maybe a fun thing to experience as you go along in life. But the thing is, not having one (or two, if you feel like having a boyfriend and a girlfriend at the same time... hehehe) doen't make you the saddest person in the entire universe! And believe me, it's not the end of the world (Lea, you can say that again and again, TO YOURSELF please! LOL!)

It is the law of nature (or is it nature of law? I think its the earlier one... LOL!) that human beings, be it a guy or a girl (and of course, not to forget, the combination of both, and regardless of your sexual preferences) will never be satisfied with what he or she or heshe has or have, right? Like for instance, say before this you were like living in the 'solo' and 'not taken' life, suddenly, when you see all your friends around you having their 'honeypie' or 'baby boo boo' and stuff, you'll then say to yourself... "I want my own Baby Boo Boo too!". Or should it be the other way round - say for example, the ones that with couples or in a relationship, when they see around 'em friends who are enjoyin' their single solo lives, that's when his or her heart starts pounding and say... "I wanna be free! I wish am single, AGAIN!" Hehehe...

For these single people, some of them (can't say all now can I?) would definitely praying all day and night long, to find their perfect match. Of course, who doesn't want a perfect couple? Tall, handsome/ beautiful, rich maybe, sentimental, - the list goes on. Well you can't blame them for wishing. And for those with their couples, probably what their wishing for is the right time, right moment, with guts to go along with it, so that they would be able to move on to the next level... (Music please!!! Yes, that "I'm walking down the aisle now!" song! LOL!)

Actually, whether life treats you bad, or kind, whether you'll lead a beautiful path or a hidious getaway, whether you'll feel at ease or  feel as if you've been pushed to be pressured, it's all up to you. You decide... although HIM, The Almighty is up there watching out our everymove, still - HE will not help you unless you go and help yourself, right? So basically yeah - it's YOUR choice!


True, living alone, ie. single without anyone, tends to have its pros and cons I guess. Lets look at the advantages of being alone. Hmmm... no no, let me rephrase that. Lets take a look at the advantages of being SINGLE. Hmmm that's more like it. Hiks!

• You are free to do just about anything in life, as you wish, doing the things you like without constantly being interrupted, right?
• You get to do a lot of things, freely, without having to think "Owh wait, isn't today her birthday?" Or like, "Dang! I think I've promised to go and watch the game with him... dang!".
• And this one I think - a plus point. You don't have to waste your phonebills. Hehehe. Seriously, have you ever calculated your phonebills and check on the details? Believe me, if you're that mushy mushy sms here sms there, call here call there type - hehehe you're in a lot of shock to know just how much you have spent on your phonebill - or prepaid as for that matter! LOL!
• YES, you don't have to lie if you feel like goin' out with anyone else. Like, some couples tend to be, over-controlling on certain things, and certains things that is about his or her boyfriend or girlfriend goin' out with other people. That's alright for some people I guess, but not all.
• You apparently don't have to worry about anything about anyone that is with you? Like... "Has he had his lunch?" Or... "Is she ok today?" and etc.

Other than that, I believe that by being single, it'll do u good, externally. For instance, lets just say, you meet your friends almost everyday, and they get to make you feel happy, would that be a nice thing? I mean, for that reason, you tend to feel, erm, worried, should you get yourself involved with someone. In a way, you don't feel like taking all these 'happiness' to a risky situation. I doubt you would wanna sacrifice all that to one specific person ie. your boyfriend or girlfriend, right? Like, what if you boyfriend doesn't like your friends? Or what if you girlfriends doesn't let you hang out with you bikerfriends, how? It's like - there goes your social life, and hello 24-4 cuddling and holding hands everwhere you go. Ew!

I have to say this, living in a single mode - requires you to have a strong heart and will to survive and live your life. Not to say that if you're not strong, you should go out and search for that perfect couple. No no. Was referring to the fact that, being single, also can teach you to be a stronger person. Who says every single/ solo men or women around town are strong? You may never know that they started off being weak, very weak. But life as a single person has definitely tought them a lot to be a much stronger person.

According to this Sociologist, Judith Bardwick, or was it Bradwick (whichever!), she said something about the self-confidence and the urge to be a stronger person comes from within, when you accept and know yourself better. And once you get to know yourself better, you're in control. And yes, that refers to you being strong and do not depend on others to survive. (Yes! MUSIC PLEASE - "I Will Survive!" LOL!)

After all that has been said, let's not forget, that you do have the disadvantages to face. Among all, one that you really have to swallow (some say it's a hard thing to do but they've managed to do so...) would be the fact that you know for a fact that although you have gazillion trillion friends, still, by the end of the day, you are still single; although loving it, but u've missed the sensational feeling about being in love and being with someone special. Yeap, true - you cry a little, and then you'll say everything will turn out just fine. Well, excuse me, for how long are you gonna live your life in denial? "I love being single, and I'm loving it - everyday every hour and every minute" Harrttuiihhh! Yeah right! Go tell that to yourself in front of the mirror, only to discover your reflection will say "F**k you!" You say you have family, friends - but lets face it. Everyone has their pair, has their match in this world. For how long are you goin' to depend to your friends, crying and telling them your problems? If they're single, they might be a little bit tooo busy for you. If they've their own couples, don't you think they have their own problems? Family - I don't suppose you go tell your folks just about anything, right? So that leaves you to you, with yourself, in your room, and alone - HOW!?

That's the main thing I see - whats bugging this YSL club members (Young, Single and Lonely)...



I guess it's a bit different should you choose to live in a relationship. Living with someone (doesn't matter, married, couples or whatever you wanna call it), definitely has a lot differences, if you wanna compared to single/ solo peeps. If previously in your solo life, you get to do anything as you wish without having to 'report' to anyone, well - look again now since you're in a relationship. BINGGO! You report almost everything you do to that special someone. Is it because you HAVE to or it happens automatically, due to the fact that you feel, like, you HAVE to tell? Theres a diffenrence between HAVE to to do or you FEEL like you have to do it. Hiks! And sometimes, why do couples fight? "WHERE WERE YOU!? You don't have the slightest thought that I'm worried sick? No sms? No nothing? ZIPPED!?!?!" or like "You went out? With who? Where to? What did you guys do?" and bla bla bla - the list goes on. These are the normal things couples faces everyday.

Other than that, as couples, you tend to share a lot of things that others don't know about you two. Sharing here doesn't always means thoughts and feelings, it also means that,... ermmm, don't be surprised, at one point, you'll be sharing THINGS with your couples; car - clothes, cds and stuffs. And plus, if before this you don't have to worry about shopping (yes, a fine point for all the guys out there) - yes now you have to start worrying about shopping; either you be there for her to carry all those paperbags and stuffs, OR you have to shop FOR her, OR you have to buy things for her as a prove of love? Yes yes - this happens to the girls also! Haven't you heard of girls spending for guys? Although it is not as oftenly heard, but still - its there I guess...

But the sweetest things about being in a relationship mode, ie. the advantages of not being single, would be - if previously, you have only your friends who could either be too busy with their single life or too busy with their couple-problems, OR ur family only, now - you have him/her or himher. HEHEHE! Seriously, I don't think I know how to put this in words but the feeling is different! You get to speak your heart out to him or her, telling your problems and what not, and by the end of the day, you get to be cuddled and pampered and told "It's ok Sayang, everything will turn out ok..." and then there's the XXX. Opps! And when we talk about 'Shoulders to cry on' - owh gimme a break. You honestly think that we cry because we're sad and feeling depressed, with problems? That's why we need his or her broad shoulders to cry? (HER?- BROAD SHOULDERS? Hurmmmm...) Duh - have you ever thought that you're crying because you're happy? That's when you feel on top of the world - you have that special someone to share the tears of joys and laughter with! HUREYYYY! (What song to play now ek?)

That's when you discover that ... "GOD! THANK YOU! Thank you - because of you and the destiny you wrote, I'm with him/ her... Thank you!" and that's when you realize that, being in a relationship simply means the world to you!

But lets not get too excited over this matter you know - as things are not always as good as what it may seemed to be. Never expect sunny sunshined weather when you know, there's always possibilities of dark clouds surrounding you. Unexpected situations like this, that a lot of couples have to face. The longer the relationship is, face it - you to tend to get bored, you tend to see nothing special about him or her or himher anymore (HELLO!? Whats with the HIMHER???? LOL!) - A longggg relationship doesn't mean it'll always turn out ok for both parties you know. And when the slightest mistakes occurs, when the smallest problems appear, and when a tiny bit of fight happens, that's when you start to wish that "Owh boy - how I wish am back single, and loving it!"

So I guess the bottom line here is - true, humans will never be satisfied of what they have, of what they don't have and of what they will have... which draws my attention to this very question...


Smiling... sweetly (SWEETLY? Die la you Lea... harrtuuutuuiiihh!!! Heheh! PLASTIC SMILE would be better off saying!) - and I replied...


Hahaha! Motif separuh nyawa dan hari tulis the whole entry in English, tetiber endingnye, No "KOMEN" katanya!? LOL!!!!!!!!!!


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