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Tuesday, December 27, 2005

"Hati ini telah kau lukai..." - DQ lagi?



When it comes to love, mesti ade 'kes'nye dengan hati, perasaan, emosi - or else, why call it love? Sebab kalau we think that's love, but at the same time tanpa kehadiran heart, emotions, feelings, then I dare say it's just a fling, and not love.

Why do people always DQ (feeling˛ Drama Queen) when it comes to love? Simple - sebab it has got to do with how we feel about someone else. Tak kisahlah, be it something yang happy ke, or sad, tapi bila ada sangkut pautnya dengan cinta, there's bound to be a DQ moment.

And when kite bercakap tentang DQ, selalu kita akan samakan dengan sessi tangisan, raungan teresak˛ tanpa henti, kan? Tapi do you know, that, over excited, moments filled with joy and laughter pon, also boleh diklasifikasikan sebagai DQ? Sebab DRAMA, selalunya orang nak pikir bile bebende sedeh, unwanted things, berlaku saje. Tapi yer la, bile kite happy sesangat pon, that could be described as drama also, kan? Ever thought about that?

But of course, MOST of the time, bile kite happy with love, about how we feel about it, jarang sekali orang nak kata kite over feeling or being DQ sebab the feeling is good - another great feeling, brought to you, by the power and magic of love. Tapi, bile kite tangisi akan sesuatuh yang bermulanya kerana cinta, love, perasaan, emosi, lantas DQ diperkatakan terhadap that someone. I think it's ridiculuous just to kaitkan DQ dengan sedih and not when you're happy.

Kenapasal orang DQ about love? Why bile timbulnya soal cinta, hati dan perasaan, selalunya bebenda cam nih akan melanda? Melayani hati yang luka, menangis tatkala melalui hari˛ yang akan datang - why? There must be a reason for it, kan? And kalau u think org yang DQ tu semulajadinya feeling diva DQ dan asiklah nak over drama about something; WRONG - bukan the person tu yang harus dipersalahkan sebab dia DQ. Kalau dia buat salah, dan dia yang DQ about it, lain la citer. Ini yang mek nak soalkan disini, what causes this unfortunate soul to DQ. Tak der lah dengan sengaja˛ dia nak DQ, kan? Atas apa yang berlaku, pasti ade penyebabnya, kan? Mrasalah, jadi DQ nih pun, mesti ade orang yang menyebabkan dia menjadi DQ...

Kita ambik contoh dalam satu kes ni; happened to a close friend of mine. Make it short and simple - dia bercinta dengan someone for like nearly a year, bermadah kasih bagai semua, tapi bila nak take another step forward in the relationship, bile si bfnya ade masalah and wouldn't wanna share things with my friend ni, akhir sekali, my friend merana, relationship berderai hancur. Jadi dalam kes cam tu, kita nak sewenang˛ hati kata my friend ni DQ? Kalau tak der masalahnye semua tu, takkan la dia nak DQ gittu˛ je kan? I mean, relationship itu dah bersangkut paut dengan hati, perasaan, jiwa dan raga (not to mention, body also) - tapi in the end, just because the other party tak leh nak go on, terus memeranakan my friend. Where's the justice in this? Dah la nan-ado justicenya, dituduhnya pulak as DQ - I wonder how my friend went through semua tu?

Selalu kita tgk, tak kisah lah in real life, or dalam drama ke movies ke ape ke - ok, like, si perempuan akan DQ mengenainya cintanya yang separuh jalan ke, tak kesampaian ke, all kerana si lelaki tu. But of course, ade jugak, problemnye tu bermula sebab si perempuan, mrasalah si lelaki tu yang DQ. Tapi tak kisah lah siapa penyebabnya; yang mek nak keutarakan sini ialah bila si lelaki buat hal dan dqnya jatuh kepada si perempuan.

Bukan nak disalahkan pihak lelaki also - kadang kala things happened for a reason. Tapi most of the time, the reasons to boleh dibawak berbincag, boleh diskusikan, I mean - boleh dielakkan dari nak buat si perempuan tu DQ. Lets take a look at a few examples...

  • Si lelaki couldn't face reality: Apa realitynya? Well - contoh. Darjat, pangkat, or something like that. When it comes to love, apa kes nak berkira bab pangkat, harta bagai semua tu. Kalau dah cinta, tolak ketepi la kan hal itu. Tak kira lah sapa yang kaya raya, tapi pasti satu pihak akan lebih dari satu pihak yang lain. Dan dalam contoh ini, lets just say, siperempuan yang berstatus lebih siket, dan si lelakinya tu kurang. Dah bercinta bagai, bermain perasaan semua, lepas setahun dua, baru nak realize that dan nak dutchkan si perempuan tu, harus la kena FCUK! Kalau dari awal dah tahu darjat tu pemisah, dah sedar sangat couldn't go on dengan cinta material itu, WHY BOTHER teruskan?
  • Benua pemisah cinta: Satu pihak dok Malaysia dan satu pihak duduk just opposite hell! Kalau nak dikisahkan bab jarak sebagai pemisah, tak dernye la ungkapan Long Distance Relationship. I mean, lets face it. Kalau dah nak bercinta, dan tak berkira bab distance ni - anything goes, kan? Trust is the word. You trust me, I trust you. Some people can go though with it, why can't you? Tapi back to square one, mek hairan, kalau dah tahu tak leh nak pull it off, kenapasalaaaa, why, why started it in the first place? Bercinta ni bukan skadar dimulut - tapi bermain di hati as well. And bila hati berkecai, susah nak satukan balik. Kalau dah tahu nak kecilkan hati orang, tak yah mulakan. Kan?

Banyak lagi la contoh yang boleh mek bincangkan tapi macam tak terkata pulak. All I'm trying to say here is that; why main˛kan hati and perasaan orang? Dan bila dah salah, tahu pulak nak menyendiri? I mean - dah berkecai-remukkan hati orang, pepandai lah baikpulihkannya, kan? Bercinta ini bukan nye senang, although it looks easy. Tapi again, bila ia bermain dengan hati dan perasaan, jgn pandang mudah. Once broken considered sold, kan? Tapi hati yang berkecai, dan pecah retah seribu bagai, siapa nak beli?


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Posted at 8:15:53 pm by Nurlea Laurielle Lai Lee Abdullah

5thE_MARTHA TILAAR
December 27, 2005   10:21 PM PST
 
i love this entry, something that almost everyone with a heart could reflect to. Instant response to feelings that is unique to only oneself, and it differs form another.

Always cherish another's feeling, dont ever toy with it. You might get toyed back, and it's not nice.

Hold on stongly to the Divine. Dont ever let go of His guidance. God willing, one would never get lost and find the innermost feelings that is beyond words...

ape aku membebel ni? well..renungkan.. Mek suke entry u ols ni... it touched my heart. *hugs*
Michael
December 27, 2005   10:46 PM PST
 
Hey babe,

So sorry to hear about what happened. Be strong, at least you know there is one less asshole to go through for now.

Take care *muah*
That *Someone*
December 28, 2005   12:47 PM PST
 
Bisa berbisa. Tajam menikam.



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