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Friday, August 19, 2005

Do you think about your ex?


Sometimes kan when you're alone or something (alone dalam context nih me maksudkan as you're being alone, in your room, sitting there quietly doin' nothing - bukan alone as in you're unattached ke ape ke... ok?), you tend to think a lot, otak tu berkeliaran, like, it has a mind on its own, kan?(Imagine? A mind, having a mind on its own? This is weird but when you pikir2 balik, possible jugak, kan? Hehehe). And so, anyways, when you just sit there by the side of your baywindow, looking out into the sky, you start to think a lot of things and stuff; like macam2 lah, from life to sex, to matters relating suicide, or what you wanna wear esok? Kadang2 you think about your love and lover, ape dia tgh buat sekarang nih? And kita tak dapat nak deny the fact that sometimes, ade jugak people, when they're alone - SOMETIMES, fikiran mereka jauh melayang terkenangkan EX boyfriend/ girl/ hubby or wife - sometimes even kepada ex scandals, kan? Is this normal? Adekah one yang leading a present tense life should not have a wandering mind thinking and dwelling about his/ her past tense life ie thinking about his/ her ex love/lover? Hmmm - pada pendapat mek lah kan, it's only human to think of the past. Thinking about the past is good, sebab it allows us to think a lot and learn a lot and also what comes from the past, makes us a better person here in this present tense life, kan?

Adakalanya kite memang tgh dengan someone, tapi ape org tu kata, masuk telinga kanan keluar telinga kire sebab our mind tgh pikirkan something else, our EX, kan?


Doesn't necessary mean that when you dah attached, with a new one, OR you are still unattached with anybody new since your last break up, you don't get that few minutes of silence, thinking of your ex? (again, tak kire lah u ingatkan whatever sh*ts dia buat kat u ke, or apa2 sweet and goodie things dia dah lakukan for you...) As a normal homosapien, mek percaya, there comes a time when you would stop doin' anything yang you tgh buat at that time, and start thinking about your ex (of course, provided you do have an ex lover to begin thinking about la kan. HEHEH kalau nan ado ex, tak der nye terpikir2 bab2 nih, kan? - LOL!) And sometimes tu kan, orang yang dah bercouple baru pong mengalami this situation - again soalan mek? Is this normal? Or adakah it indicates that kita masih can't get enough of our ex? For me - it's normal. Tapikan, kite bercakap tentang ada kalanya manusia yang dah bercouple baru pon ade kalanya teringatkan ex mereka, apatah lagi when you meniti liku2 hidup alone, tanpa a new partner pengganti, how? Lagi la tensi bagi mek, kan?

Sometimes bile you're alone, tersadai layu thinking of her - kan?


Tapi tak semua orang berpendapat sebegitu. Ade jugak yang once over, its over; langsung tannak dah pikirkan pasal ex diaorang (I guess again, they're only being human. Human kan berbeza berbeda pendapat, kan?)
  • Lukman (bukan nama sebenar)"Teringatkan my ex? That whore? Sorry ler, I'd rather kill my brains dari letting it think about her. Baik ke buruk ke dia dah buat kat I sebelum2 ni, for me its over and once its over, she's in my last few pages of my 3000 pages life history book. She's over...":

  • Intan (bukan nama sebenar): "lea, in my case, takde langsung teringat kat my previous ex tuh. bcos he said things yg buat I mmg had enuff, totally over him. have forgotten every single tiny thing bout him.seriusly.. kalo dulu.. I keep on begging nak balik kat dier..things like that, but after dier ckp satu bende yg I mmg tak expect dier akan ckp.. oh.sorry la man. bye bye!"
Itu baru 2 pendapat mek tanyekan tentang hal/ isu nih. I mean, both of them memang dah "THAT'S IT!" with their exs... but what about those yang meniti hari dengan berbekalkan memories of the past with their ex-lovers?
  • Tina (bukan nama sebenar): "I have a new boy now (bley x nak cakap toyboy? hiihihih) and dia jauh lebih hebat from my previous previous previous ex semua (yer i ade banyak toyboys in my life) tapi walaupun dah with a new person, sometime i just could not stop myself dari teringatkan one of my ex lovers. walaupun dia dah i dumpkan, tapi kadang2 tu when im all alone in my house, tgk tv or listening to music ada kalanya teringatkan dia. just could not help myself. but its cool, i only think of you once or twice which i rase tak der lah teruk sangat. bukannye i hadapkan dia lagi dah. just once in a blue moon jer teringatkan my sexy toyboy tu with his megahuge sexy pistol! HARHARHAR"

  • Karmal (bukan nama sebenar): "itu la hari tu aku terkantoi. aku dok tgk tv dng awek baru aku. tiba2 hotak aku melayang tah kemana sampai aku call awek aku nama ex aku? paadarhal aku dah clash dengan ex aku 2 tahun dah. tibe2 sampuk aku gi sebut nama ex gf aku. gf aku mengamuk lar time tu tapi aku cool sambil tersnyum. nak buat camana. kadang2 ade certain move,certain angle, certain stuffs dalam kehidupan kita, mengingatkan kita tentang ex kita dan terus we're back in the past. tu ar yang aku terlepas sebut nama ex aku tu... yeah, aku ade gak teringatkan dia dok buat ape, and things like that u know? :)"


So itu la, different people, different ragam. Rambut jer sama colour hitam, tapi hati? (tu pun skarang rambut pun dah banyak colour2 la - merah la unggu la - die la KIE!)

Bile sunyi2, hujan2, by the side of your window, disitu dan time tu la otak nih nak berfikir about the past - DIE LA PASTE TENSE!


So it doesn't matter la whether you're single or not, but the question here is, salah ke kalau kite teringatkan our ex? Tak kisah la how you ended your relationship with your ex tu tapi the bighgy wiggie issue here is that, perlu ke kita salahkan diri kite dan especially our mind kalau kite tetiber teringatkan about our ex?

But as for me, yang meniti hari2 senja nih, sometimes alone, sometimes get hooked up with someone new, I have to admit, adakalanya I do think of my ex and its ok I guess. For me punye kes, saje je terpikir - yes, selalunya I pilih to think about it - bukannye I simply choose to think tapi adekalanya perkara yang me tgh buat which led me to go wild wandering about the past.

Like for example malam semalam. As I was clearing my folder ke ape tah la dalam My Documents tu, check check, I found a Notepad file which reads "Case of the ex". Yeap, its a chat between me and my ex, saved. Ala, time2 me gaduh dulu la, kecoh at one time (Ginger knows about this). I actually terlupa that I still have that chat thingie saved (bagi reason2 yang tertentu la kan, sebab tu mek still keep it) So anyways, am not gonna dwell much on that matter. Kang kena sembur pulak dengan dia tu lagi sebab hebahkan satu dunia pasal hal dia. Die la mother nature like that. Tapi, ape yang buatkan mek terpikir sejenak about my ex semalam sebelum tidur, is the chat between me and dengan seorang teman rapat yang mek saved also. Chat file tu siket je. Its a chat about how my good friend me suggested the things I should have said to my ex waktu gaduh2 tu, which I ended up tak buat pon sebab by the time nak buat cam yang disuruh my friend nih, my ex ngan I pon dah macam bo-layan dah each other... kowser kan?

Bile pikir2kan balik, dang! I should have went on and said the things my friend suggested nih... dang dang dang! I should have! It would have felt good (e eh? Motif mek mula rase entry nih dah mula divert kepada an emo-entry based on my past-tense life? Die la bonda Fifi!) Anyways, bawah nih ade la some yang my friend tu suggested me to go and say to my ex - and boy is she good with words. Tak sia sia parents hantaq masuk university di Amerika Syarikat (Was it Ivy League? Ataupun Hairyvard? Hmmmm)

"Dear just put it this way. i'm sure you never MEANT to hurt me when you left me. and i also know you never MEANT to hurt me when you were fucking my friend behind my back. i know you did it because you're human, a man. and i know you have needs that i wasnt able to fulfil. so, when you did it and i get hurt, you pedulik apa, right? lantaklah kat i, kan?"

"the same way, when i write those things in the blog. i never MEANT for busukkan nama u and everything. i was just writing my feelings. so when you get hurt due to what i wrote, lantak u la..."

"are we even? i dont think so. because i did it in the blog, without people knowing who you are. i dont put names and faces together for them to see..."

"but you did it in front of ALLL the people in KL. that didnt hurt me, no it didnt. it hurt your image because well, they CAN put names and faces together and make up stories.."

"are we even? i still dont think so..."

"so now, LAN (or his full name), you left me and slept with my friend GIN, not just hurt me but also give yourself a bad name. there, i just mentioned names, shall i put faces to match the puzzle to my blog readers??

"NOW we're even..."

"so dont be blaming me when your name goes busuk, because you did it to yourself"


Dammmmn! I should have said the things yang my friend suggested nih, kan? Chis! Owh well - it's a matter of "I SHOULD HAVE" jer now. It has been almost what, 8, coming to 9 months dah? Am so over with him, tapi itu lah - ade kalanya, TERPIKIR jugak la u ols. Cannot run away from that feeling - for some yang agree with me tu, betul tak? Adekalanya datang tiba dan waktu, tiba2 jer kite teralih divert feeling and think about the past and of our ex love/ lover, kan? Just can't help it. Probably (am referring to myself) - me just lemah kot, can't control myself at times. So I would have to say that, it's ok la kot, SOMETIMES, to think of your ex... ape salahnye? Kalau otak dah mula melencong lebih2 to think much of your ex, time to divert pemikiran kepada those sh*tty things dia dah buat kat kita (if have la kan.... hehe)

It's ok I guess to think about the past love and lover - just don't let it keceramukkan your current life...


So in conclusion to this tah pa per punye entry, mek would have to say that, its ok to think of your ex. Pada pendapat me, me think that thinking about your ex bawa banyak faedah juga. Like kalau u think of those sh*tty things dia dah buat to you, you boleh mencorakkan your current lover NOT to be like your ex. And kalau minda kita asiklah terbayangkan those good deeds your ex dah buat for you, to you, you can always ask you current lover to apply the same as it would make you happy.

BUT - NEVER compare your ex and your current one, TERANG2an. Let it be in your heart, simpan2 jer la. Buat jer analisa sendiri, tak perlu say it out loud. Cara nak sampaikan msg u want this and that pun, by right tak boleh be so obvious sangat, takut the current one terasa that we're comparing him/ her to our ex. Walaubagaimana pun, mek tetap akan percaya to the fact that, it's OK to think of your ex - just not too much! LOL!


Nurlea Laurielle Lai Lee Abdullah
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Posted at 11:17:49 am by Nurlea Laurielle Lai Lee Abdullah

neo
August 19, 2005   11:40 AM PDT
 
seriusly LL..it's normal..neo pun selalu mcm tu..erm neo pun aritu dok kemas2 baju tetiba ternampak ubat2 yg my 'abang' beli masa i demam ermm..sayang nak guna.. last i simpan je dlm drawer..shuld i???
nasik
August 19, 2005   12:14 PM PDT
 
ex? kenaper benda2 yg dah lepas or dah tak mjadi hak sekeliling kita mesti ader Ex kan depan? Ex-gf, Ex-bf, Ex-classmate, Ex-Scoolmate, Ex-housemate... sedangkan kalo dlm AF X ini membawa maksud yg amat besar iaitu X-Factor.. hehehe

bg nasik, mengingati Ex tak salah sebab itulah gunanya otak yg berfungsi menyimpan memori. yg penting jgn terlalu taksub dan cuba memikirkan kemungkinan2 lain yg kita harapkan berlaku dlm hubungan lepas. takder maknerrnyerr..

Selalunya kita akan teringat kat EX kita, bila dia ader EXfactor yg kita nak dan perasaan kita terlampau EXtreme sgt... tp kena ingat, EXtasy yg sementara nih boleh membawa kpd hati luka yg EXtravaganzaa....

imahlenggok
August 19, 2005   12:22 PM PDT
 
aiyoo.present continous sgt!!
Lee Novotny
August 19, 2005   02:07 PM PDT
 
Betul tuh Lea, u can think of your ex but not too much (especially kpd yg dah bercouple!).

BUT u can never ever forget your first love... for some people that was such a precious moment! :)

I like this entry..tak masuk BI ker u ols?? hehehehh
Nurlea Laurielle
August 19, 2005   03:15 PM PDT
 
Motif Imah ngan Lee ade unsur selit carutan mek? EHEHEHEHE - kalau mek masuk BI kan LEE, terkangkang la Imah tu! Oppsss die la ASTRO!
dala
August 19, 2005   04:16 PM PDT
 
hmm..... me dah coment dh dlm entry tuh. :P
shark
August 19, 2005   08:13 PM PDT
 
menarik entry kali nih....bravo tuh LL... i memang suka teringat kat my ex...Even though he is even evil than the devil... its like i love him and hate him at the same time... then biler dah giler2 pikir balik pasai dia... aku plak yg jadik giler...life sucks dude...
pumpkin79
August 20, 2005   08:28 AM PDT
 
Lea mmg best...mmuuaahh...suka buat entry2 yg gempak....ingat kat ex...tu lah yg i tgh wat skang....damn...sangat x best when u start fikir apa dia penah cakap or buat kat u dia cakap or buat kat org lain gak....ni kes dia ada org lain and then tinggal kita lah ni...sob sob....rindu saat dulu2....but what to do...tgl lah aku dan kenangan jek r...hukhuk...syabas lea...
noor
August 20, 2005   05:07 PM PDT
 
I enjoy reading every single detail kat ur blog lea. Very interesting. Best giler...keep it up....
Takashi
August 21, 2005   06:35 PM PDT
 
i do miss my ex a lot, just cannot let her go off my mind, i'm still deeply in love with her, shat should i do lea?
Nurlea Laurielle
August 21, 2005   06:41 PM PDT
 
Takashi....

I understand how you feel. Been there hon! Seriously, TIME will heal everything. TIME will set you free. Chill a lil' bit with your friends and loved ones. And if you asked what i did to forget my ex? BUAT BODOH dan BUAT BUSY. When you're BUSY and not ALONE doin' NOTHING, that's when otak u WONT be thinking of her.. Seriously. Try it...

Kalau nak jawapan yang serupa sial dari mek... hehe - get LAID! A LOT! but please, jgn ikut nasihat sundel mek nih! LOL!!!!...
miyui
August 23, 2005   02:53 AM PDT
 
Em, X adalah a letter yg datang sebelom Y. so, i think, that's why bila certain org pikir about their Ex, they might end up asking "why?why?"

so, i think, kalau nak pikir pasal Ex pon, jangan lah pikir lama2, or banyak2 sangat, nanti u'll just end up asking yourself "why?why?"..

kalau stakat terus gi ke Z (zzzzzzzz = tido) tuh takpe lah jugak...

:p

hehe...best tak comment nih? adakah ia sebest artikel nih?
AdamdrAgx
October 22, 2005   09:21 AM PDT
 
Adam teringatka my EX sebab SMS terakhir yang Adam hantar pada dia sebelum kami putus terpaksa ialah...

" Kalau macamtu kata awak, jangan ganggu saya lagi, saya tak sudi nak berkawan dengan awak,..."

which i mean bahawasanya adam tak mampu untuk menganggap dia hanya kawan... sebab adam dah terlalu sayangkan dia....

Dan dia pulak ingat yang adam dah benci sesangat ngan dia...

so, end ofd the story, dia kapel ngan "my so called" bestfriend. Camno??

Adam gilo dibueknyo...Hahahah!!!

AdamdrAgx



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